Sunday, October 25, 2009

more on birth, because I know you love it

Oh, just when you thought the labor posts were over, I slam you with another. This time I'm solely focusing on Cesarean births. And, for your viewing pleasure, I first want to slam you with some statistics. Stay with me. It gets good.

US Cesarean Rates:

1970 - 5.5%

1975 - 10.4%

1980 - 16.5%

1985 - 22.7%

1990 - 22.7%

1994 - 21.2%

1995 - 20.8% ---> ACOG recommends VBAC for most women

1996 - 20.7% ---> New England Journal of Medicine says VBACs are dangerous

1997 - 20.8%

1998 - 21.2%

1999 - 22.0%

2000 - 22.9%

2001 - 24.4%

2002 - 26.1%

2003 - 27.6%

2004 - 29.1%

2005 - 30.2%

2006 - 31.1%


So if you walk into a hospital in the US, your chances of having a C-section are 1 in 3. Those aren't good odds. Not at all. Are the women of the 70s not the same women of 2009? Are the women of 2009 not the same women of 60 A.D.? The same uteruses that held babies and contracted in 800 B.C. are the same uteruses that we have today.

No, not the exact same. That would be gross. Ew.


I know. I sound a little bit crazy.



And while I do know that Cesarean births do save the lives of children and mothers (and thank goodness for that!), I do recognize that the United States has the 2nd highest infant mortality rate in the developed world. 70% of births in the world are led by midwives. In the US, it's more like 7%. We have learned to trust doctors with an iron fist and we've forgotten to think for ourselves. We are told things like, "You're too small to deliver your baby" or "Your baby isn't happy" or "Your baby is a 10-pounder, we have to get them out of there!"

And the percentages of C-sections in birth centers is about 4.5% - a huge difference from that of a hospital. So something is different there.

But sometimes your baby is breech. Sometimes your baby is transverse. Sometimes you're pregnant with multiples, and it's the safest way. Sometimes you just don't progress. Sometimes your baby becomes lodged. And when other tactics, such as getting in certain positions, moving, using birthing balls, and manually moving a baby don't work, a C-section is in order.

So you get dressed in your adorable little blue hat. They wheel you away and give you lots of anesthesia while your husband waits in the hallway for the go-ahead to come in. You're on your back, and you have a giant blue sheet draped in front of you. You feel pressure here and there, and your husband is telling you what's going on. Your newborn is pulled out of you, and they hold your babe above the curtain so you can get a look! They do major sucking because your baby didn't get a good massage from your vaginal wall on its way out, so there's extra fluid that must be removed. Your husband is peering over the curtain to get a better look, and you're stuck on your back. They finally bring you your baby burrito so you can give him a kiss and say hello. Then they stitch you back up and send you off to recovery from your major surgery.

And that's how it goes! Or, at least, that's how I've read and seen how it goes.

But have you ever heard of the Slow Cesarean? No? Neither had I, before I picked up this amazing book. It's another way of performing a C-section, and it pays close attention to details - and, guess what? It's slow.

-The drape that typically obscures a mom's view of her body is withdrawn as the baby emerges so she can see her baby being born

-At first, only the baby's head is removed from the uterus, allowing the baby to receive a few minutes of the benefit of a body massage as the uterus contracts

-Instead of quickly clamping and cutting the cord, the doctor leaves it intact and allows the baby to slowly acclimatize to the surroundings with support from the placenta's blood and oxygen

-As the baby seems to become more alert, the doctor hands the baby to the mom, who places her little newborn on her chest for skin-to-skin contact. This way bonding can begin. The baby awakens to the world hearing Mom's voice and smelling Mom's smell instead of being on a resuscitation table.

*Note: It's been proven that breast-feeding is easier to establish, and the baby is much more calm when a C-section is performed this way


There is another way! No one goes into pregnancy fantasizing a C-section as the end result. Well, scratch that. Some celebs (and average moms..) have been "picking" and "choosing" their baby's birthday by scheduling inductions for no reason other than it being a "good day" for them. I'm totally against this for a whole slew of reasons. Don't get me started. Or, please do, because this is my favorite topic.

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The book also lists the World Health Organization Recommendations for the Best Birth. I find this to be very interesting, and I couldn't agree more:

-The well-being of the new mother must be ensured through free access of a chosen member of her family during birth and throughout the postnatal period. In addition, the health team must provide emotional support

- Women must participate in decisions about their birth experiences

- The healthy newborn must remain with the mother whenever possible***

- Immediate breast-feeding should be encouraged even before the mother leaves the delivery room. Unrestricted mother-infant contact after the delivery and unrestricted breast-feeding reduce breast-feeding failure

- There is no justification for a hospital to have a Cesarean section rate of higher than 10-15%. Vaginal deliveries after a Cesarean section should be encouraged

- Electronic fetal monitoring should not be routine

- There is no indication for shaving pubic hair before delivery

- There is no indication for routine enemas before delivery

- The dorsal lithotomy position during labor and delivery is not recommended. Women must decide which position to adopt for delivery

- Induction of labor should be reserved for specific medical indications

- The routine administration of analgesic or anesthetic drugs should be avoided

- Artificial early rupture of membranes, as a routine process, is not justifiable

- Enhanced social and psychological support from caregivers reduces negative outcomes. Leaving women unattended during labor should be abandoned

- Separating healthy mothers and babies routinely should be abandoned*****

- Repeating Cesarean section routinely after previous C-sections should be abandoned

- Restricted maternal position during labor and delivery should be abandoned. Upright versus recumbent position during first and second stage reduces negative outcomes

- Performing episiotomy routinely should be abandoned

- Inducing labor routinely at less than 42 weeks gestation should be abandoned

- Prescribing sedatives or tranquilizers routinely should be abandoned



I've bolded the statements that I feel strongly about. At the top of my list, probably, would be the idea that for a healthy mother and child, the baby should go straight to the mother's chest for skin-to-skin contact. Not weighed. Not measured. Not slapped with goop on the eyes to protect from from the Chlamydia and Gonorrhea that their mother doesn't have. On the mommy's chest for the best bonding moment of their lives.


The point is: there are lots of options out there, and your doctor probably won't tell you about them. Your doctor has a bunch of other patients, so you have to do your research to know what's best for your birth.


And, Note: I've never given birth, so I don't really know what I'm talking about! I'm just spreading the word of Ricki Lake, because I highly agree with her and think she's on to something...

Check out her book or buy it. I got ALL my information in this post from her book, Your Best Birth

Visit her website to learn more about how you can have your best birth!




get caught up!

On Friday, we ate at a hibachi Japanese restaurant. It was delicious, but Mark ended up eating 2/3 of my food. By nightfall, I was nauseous - and the nausea lasted until Saturday night. Let's just say that I probably lost a lot of weight, and I had severe abdominal pain all day Saturday. One word: Gastroenteritis. I ate the salad with our meal, and Mark did not. What a bummer. Leave it to lettuce to nearly be the death of me.

On Saturday, we went to another theater and saw Couples Retreat. It was amazing, hilarious, and I held Mark's hand the entire time. Well, apart from us snacking on nachos, BBQ, fries, wings, and another order of fries. Two guesses as to who ordered that much food. I highly recommend it - the movie and the food.

But earlier on Saturday, we took another adventurous trip and headed to Richmond. Mainly, we wanted to go to USA Baby, an amazing baby store. It was chuck full of furniture, bedding, strollers, and accessories. We test drove strollers and had a blast. We decided that we want a Peg Perego -- the most lightweight, awesome stroller that I have ever laid hands on. We almost bought it, and its chocolate brown and bright orange exterior was almost too much to pass up. Plus, it was over $275 off the retail price. Alas, we didn't buy it, and we already regret it. And, yes, it was my husband who sat in the mock car seat (supposedly for the testing of buckling in car seats for expecting mothers), and he was totally buckled in the seat as I pictured our little baby in it.. safely nestled in the 5-point harness with the side impact head protection. It was a dream.

And after that, we toured the Edgar Allan Poe museum, because I think he's neat. I have one word for the museum: Lame-o. The museum didn't tell anything about him or his life, other than his mother and wifey dying. Apart from a few artifacts from his family members and his personal work chair, the rest of the museum was dead. The coolest part had to have been the newspapers from the 1800s in mint condition, which really had nothing to do with Poe. I almost bought an Edgar Allan Poe doll, with an attached raven, to sit around our house. But I thought that might be weird. And now that I rethink it, I definitely believe that would have been weird.


Mark has to get up at 430am -- he's volunteering to serve breakfast burritos. Ew. Ew @ waking up at 430 and double ew @ the thought of a breakfast burrito. Double yuck.


I'll be posting pictures of the Poe museum later, but don't get excited. Please. Don't.



Isn't this Eric Carle lion just to die for!? We thought so too, which is why we bought it at the MacArthur Center this afternoon. There was also an amazingly cute hungry caterpillar and and an angry lady bug. Too cute, Mr. Carle. Too cute.



Saturday, October 24, 2009

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me & my husband?

well

we really love each other



Friday, October 23, 2009

the movie that left me nauseous.

Tonight we planned on seeing Couples Retreat. But that didn't work out, and we ended up seeing Paranormal Activity.

And I walked out of the theater sweating, nearly hyperventilating, and nauseous with fear. Holy crap. Nothing really scares me. I laughed at The Exorcist, and I think most horror movies are pretty lame -- with the exception of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre, because it's a true story.

DBR*, you have got to see this movie. I normally wouldn't beg you to spend $20 at a theater, but, seriously, you have got to see this movie.

It's a "documentary" following a young couple - Micah & Katie. She's been "haunted" since she was 8, and the same "demon" has been following her on and off ever since. The hauntings pick up again, and her hero boyfriend decides to video tape everything to analyze it and understand what's going on.

Little things start happening, like loud noises at night and things start moving. Eventually, super scary crap starts occurring, like the demon starts breathing on her, leaving footsteps, and then dragging her out of bed.

Like, there is nothing stupid about this movie. It is 100% realistic, as far as "realism" goes. I'm pretty sure I nearly squeezed Mark's head off***. Scary movies aren't my absolute favorite, but this one goes right to the top of my list of Favorite Scary Movies of All Time. If I had a list like that. Which I don't. But I'm just sayin.

The movie isn't really out to scare you.. because you're on an emotional roller coaster with Katie, the star of the movie. She is crying and upset and scared to death, and you're rooting for them to figure out how to get rid of the demon.

I really want to ruin the movie and tell you all what happens in the end, but that wouldn't be fair. Take your spouse to the theater ASAP and see it! It's a good excuse to cuddle squeeze your partner's hand off and grab their arm like it's your last hope.

I give this movie an A+. Now go see it. Kthx!




*Dear Bloggy Readers


***Edit: I didn't actually squeeze his head off, but.. rather, his HAND. Oops. Although I probably could have squeezed his head off if I had my hands around it. Yes, I was that scared.

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C is 24 months in these videos -- just after his 2nd birthday. M was in Hawaii for Christmas, so we made videos for him.

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C reading his high frequency words at 3 1/2 using homemade flash cards


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I'm such a proud little aunt.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

top 10!

Ten Things On My Mind:

1. M comes home in 30 minutes! Better get spiffied up for my man!

2. We're going to the library when he gets home. I've got things that need to be returned and I'll be rechecking some books. I am such a book worm.

3. Piper has lost 3 teeth. She has two that are super wiggly. I secretly want to pull her teeth, but I'm not exactly a doggy dentist. And that would be weird.

4. Today I applied for grad school. It was expensive, and it's about to get even more expensive.

5. I wrote a little essay today. It's very weird to write an essay after being out of college for 5 months. Very weird. But I love to write, so it's all good.

6. I just got a little pedicure from my dog. Since she's teething, she's been licking my toes and feet. It feels pretty good, I'll admit. And I can't believe I just admitted that on my blog. (But, hey, this is my blog. See? Fort Cox. Yep, that's my last name!)

7. I found something I want for Christmas: a Canon EF 50mm lens. It sells for $97 on Amazon, and it's what MckMama uses. It makes great blurry backgrounds, and I must have it. Oh, I also decided that I want an iPhone and that's basically it! I don't ask for much, do I!?

8. I am majorly craving Kyoto and Puertos. A nice combo of hibachi steak with a chimichanga would really make my night. You don't even wanna know how pathetic the Japanese and Mexican restaurants are in these parts!

9. We're trying to decide where to go this weekend. I'm thinking Richmond, for a variety of reasons -- one of which is the Edgar Allan Poe museum. Holy smokes! Sounds like a good time to me!

10. My toothless little puppy really tries her darndest to protect me. It's adorable. I love her for it.


Halloweeeeeen!

"Why allow Halloween to be a pagan holiday in commemoration of the powers of darkness? Fill the house or church with light; sing and celebrate the victory of Christ over darkness." -Richard Foster

What do you think about Halloween!? Read this interesting article about Christianity and Halloween!


Oh, and in a little over a week, my two nephews will be dressing up! Clayton will be a pirate captain of a ship, and Hudson is going as his "first mate!" I know you can't wait for the pictures of my Hudsie in his skivvies!