Tuesday, March 31, 2009

I've got answers.

On my last day with my airman, I met lots of new people. Mothers and wives of airmen. I got asked a few times how long M and I had been married. It was just easier to say, "He left 2 weeks after we were married."

And then their jaw drops. And then they say, "Oh my gosh..." Yep. So one mother said, "That must be terrible for you!! How do you do it?!!" I only had the strength to say, "It's fine..." What else could I say, really? Then she was even more shocked.

"Fine!? How are you fine?!" ... I replied, "Well, I don't really have a choice, you see. You do whatcha gotta do." And that was that. This whole thing sucks, but we deal with it. It's not the most ideal situation, but we're making the best of it. Really. My husband is serving our country and providing us with a solid future. He'll actually have a job next year, which is more than 10% of our nation can say. I am really really proud of him for all of this. He's living his dream and creating a life for us and our family. So that's the truth. We are learning more about communication than ever before. We now appreciate each other on an entire new level. We are really lucky, in a lot of ways. My heart skips a beat every time I see his name show up on my cell phone. It's horrible being separated, but millions of wives have gone through this before me. Wives of soldiers who fought for our freedom. I wish people would just be proud of him instead of continually asking me how I do it. I just... do. and then I proudly wear my Air Force Wife pin and my collection of Air Force t-shirts, and I go on my merry way.

Okay, so I've been asked a bunch of questions since I've returned from graduation, so I decided I should answer them on my blog for the whole world to read!

1) What happens next? I'm glad you asked. M is in Wichita Falls, Texas & he's studying to be an electrician. Well, technically electrical systems. He's set to graduate on August 26, 2009. He shares a room with 1 other guy, and he has a lot more freedom. Well, not a lot, but more than in basic training! I am going to move to Texas after I finish this semester. We're pretty sure I'm on his orders to move. My friend has even asked her cousin, who is an officer, and he's confirmed it. The other husbands have also gotten word that their wives can move too. So... now it's just the waiting game. Don't worry - I'll let you know news as soon as I hear it!

2) So why can't you touch each other? I'm sure you noticed our pictures - we're all spaced out and everything. While M's in uniform, we can't touch. At all. No holding hands, hugs, etc. If he were out of uniform, he could do whatever he wants. Too bad, so sad - he had to stay in his uniform during graduation weekend. Don't worry - he touched me all he wanted to at the hotel. Ahem. Just not in public. Why? He has to be "professional." We held hands at the basketball & hockey game though. We would be standing next to each other, and his hand would automatically go to my back - he would pull away immediately because he realized what he was doing! If he had been caught touching me, he would have lost his free time immediately. I'm not exaggerating - one of our good friends was "caught" escorting his wife at the BX & he was screamed at in front of everyone. Psh. Lame.

3) How's married life? Hahahaha. Very funny. I'm not sure if you're trying to be "funny" or if you're serious. Regardless, it's great! My husband clings to every word I say, and vice versa. That type of marriage is very rare. We are best friends! And we really rely on each other for everything. So - to answer your burning question - married life is fabulous. Oh, and we never EVER fight. It's very hard to fight when you're separated by 1,000 miles.

4) So when do you see him next? I plan on moving there at the end of May. If, for some unforeseen reason, I cannot move, then I will just take a trip to Texas anyway. So we're basically on a 45 day countdown (give or take a few days).

5) Does he get to call you now? Yes. He isn't allowed to carry a cell phone, but he does have a cell phone. It stays in his dorm. I get phone calls at night. Last night he called me 3 times, and he texted me the entire day - he was traveling and being processed, so he had his cell phone on him.

6) Does he have Internet access? Why, I'm so glad you asked that one! We just bought a brand new laptop during graduation weekend. He bought some kind of $50 internet package for 1 month. He's going to try to get online tonight. He also promised that he would blog at some point. So be on the lookout! That will be a very special day when he actually blogs on Fort Cox!! He's like a celebrity around here - considering how this whole blog is about him! It sure was funny explaining to him how his name is "Prince M."

7) Did you get alone time with him this past weekend? Oh, yes. We sure did. This blog is a family-friendly place, so I'll leave it at that. But don't worry - we had a blast. And for those of you who are so sure we were going to start our little family on graduation weekend, think again!! Look for that post a little while down the road...

If you have any more burning questions that you're just dying to ask, feel free to post a comment! I'll edit this post with the answers. Go ahead, don't be shy! There should be a little link that says "Post Comment" underneath this. If you don't have a Blogger account, you can just click the Anonymous button and that will be fine!

Love yall!


  1. ahhhh!! I love your sign off thingy! and, i love that you answered all those questions. (Sorry....I asked all of them....except the one about if you like marriage) so yea, sorry that I was one of those people. haha. I'm so glad that you can talk now, and just remember, you're past the hardest part now. Basic Training. Now you can talk and stuff, and before you know it, You'll be WITH him! eeeep! :) love you.

  2. Haha I wasn't talking about YOU, silly!!! Everyone asks me - in person AND on facebook. So answering them here might help out a lot of people! I found the link to the signature thing from MckMama, of course. I want to be just like her someday.. yes, with 4 kids 4 & under too. and I would name my children Kieran, Cullen, Maisie & Stellan, but that would be just a TAD creepy. ahem.

  3. Haha. But those names are just so stinkin' cute!

  4. Oh SHANNON! You have solved the mystery! I have found all of the real names of her babies except Big Mac! It has always driven me nuts!!THANK YOU!

    And I LOVE this post-I'm so excited that you get to be with him so soon and that you get to talk to him on a regular basis now! I still can't imagine what you are going through, but that has to make it LOADS easier.

  5. hahahaha. i'm such a creep. i've spent a LOT of nights going through her archives and reading her previous posts when the babies were teeny. :] sometimes her pictures will be named "cullencries.jpg" or whatever. and then sometimes she posts pictures of the kids' rooms, and their names are hanging on the wall.. or whatever.. I know, I'm a stalker!! but it's okay, bc MckMama is awesome.

  6. Oh - Crusty, the names ARE cute.. too bad PM hates them all! I was like "WHAT'S WRONG WITH MAISIE?!?!" We still can't agree on a baby girl name.. we have agreed on 2 boy names though. So we're all set for a son! Too bad we just KNOW we'll have at least 1 girl :] and I'm keepin the baby names a secret till their birth day!

  7. Oh I never thought about looking at the picture titles!! I figured out Cullen and Maisie by the pictures of the walls with their names on them. But I never could find Kieran's! It drove me crazy! :)

  8. And I think the names are cute too!